To comment or not to comment on the sudden African American single, strong independent women issue!!
Having listened to both sides of the arguments, I will conclude by quoting a few things and posing some questions.
First to address the hyper christian women who constantly bully other women into submission:
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, …”
This is part one of the verse that gets quoted or misquoted!!
But wait in part two it is written:
“…as it is fit in the Lord.” (Col 3:18 KJV)
Implying as it is fit, or when applicable or to put bluntly there will be times that “submission” will not be fitting to do!!
For those who constantly brand this simplistic notion of Adam and Eve out of context, and utilize it as a subjugation tool;
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Gen 2:18 KJV
And thus seems to paint Eve as merely created to be a “help meet” or “helper” or “domestic” or “slave” .
And as the years went by Eve becomes just a door mat to be walked over by Adam, abused, to service his biological needs (to quote the biological paternal contributor) speak only when spoken to, etc, etc!
Just because it was not good for a man to be alone?!
I concluded that;
“Adam & Eve had privilege! Adam needing Eve or vice versa was never intended for subjugation of Eve or women or womankind.”
Conversely, on the general subject of submission, it is also written in 1 Peter 5:5 KJV
“Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility....”
This makes no distinction between the sexes, no hierarchy and equal submission between men and women!
I also have a few questions;
Seriously, what is it exactly we are “helping” men with?
Why is it assumed men are the only ones who need help?
If, women are the “weaker” vessel, why are we not entitled to any help?
Why are women classed as the “weaker” vessel yet we have to help men, the “stronger” vessel?
Isn’t it odd that the “weaker” vessel has to help the “stronger”? Selah!
Why do we think that women have only started to be strong in modern times? (History demonstrates countless women who had no choice but to rise up and take up new roles when for example men had gone to war)
Why should a strong woman threaten any man? Gosh, the weakest man is after all still going to be stronger than the strongest woman?!
I can’t believe that someone has set up a “wife” school! 😊 OMG! And yes it’s not free to go to! And ironically targets financially independent strong women who can afford to pay for these courses!!! Hum?!
So where is the equivalent. “husband” school?
Why is the responsibility of the union between a man and woman solely with the woman?
For crying out loud, seriously why are women still being blamed for broken relationships or made to feel bad about being single?! Men don’t get harassed about this!
Why have some women decided to also blame women?!
On a very serious note, when will men be held responsible for anything?
Adam blamed Eve in the beginning so no change there!!
And by the way, why is a model for married persons been applied to single persons?!! 😊😊
Flipping heck, if you’re single, enjoy, if you’re married enjoy too!!
To quote Sex And The City;
“Maybe some women aren’t meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them.”
Women, repowered, stay strong and don’t be bullied back into abusive, toxic, non-nourishing relationships!
I feel some of the women attacking other women are probably threatened by strong independent women because we raise the bar!!
As we learn to love ourselves, be assertive and boost our self esteem, let us not be distracted by naysayers!! Stay strong and;
Live. Love. Shine!!
© Lara Rose 2016