Homelessness: Stop asking, “But where are you originally from?”
Homelessness: For the record,
This is not always a bad thing!! Being orphaned by default or situational does not limit your existence on earth!
If you’re blessed with a loving, nurturing, supporting family, do appreciate it. I’m simply saying, one can live a fulfilling successful life, in spite of not belonging to a model family!
Stop asking me, “but where are you originally from!!!” I get mad by that question.
Why do you ask, I retort, “are you from Mars?” Alright if you insist, “I am from Planet Zolga!”
One day I said “from a woman’s (mother’s) tummy!!”
No, I wasn’t incubated in a test tube, but sometimes I wonder if I probably was and like all Sci-fi plots with a great cover story!!!
All my life it seems every extra curricular activity, voluntary, church activity, etc, I’ve done, gave me a sense of belonging and feeling of being wanted!!
This is something that ought to have been established in childhood at home from parents within a nurturing “home” environment!!
When this doesn’t happen, one may constantly struggle with this feeling of belonging nowhere on earth!!
What if you can get rid of the need to belong somewhere?!!
The theory is similar to the simple, half empty vs half full glass theory.
Rather than homelessness, lets call it “earthfulness” or “earthmoreness” or “universemoreness” or “godfulness”, you get the picture!
I decided to adopt this theory!
For a season, I had thrived on the idea that the stage was my home and my band and audience were my family. I also loved school, university, educational institutions and can’t get enough of my classroom family!
And of course then came along Polly, no, I’m kidding. No, then came along the post modern, avant garde church (cult?!) with the promise of a new family and you are home at last!!
But, seriously, what if you can get rid of the need to belong anywhere?!
And if I must belong somewhere then I belong on the earth, the solar system, the universe, with God. I belong in the matrix with all the other elements and carbon units as a whole. I am one with the whole earth, the universe and God.
I am daily learning to embrace the freedom of not needing to belong with a nominal earthly family.
We do not chose to be born or brought to this planet or planted within any family, dysfunctional or not.
But in spite of our point of entry, I believe we can exercise our free will and choose to be free indeed.
In spite of past difficulties and abuses eventually we find the grace to choose to be thankful for being alive.
We can rise up in faith and utilise the opportunity for our highest human expression, as living organic carbon hydrogen nitrogen units!
Flying solo as a carbon unit, I daily embrace whoever comes into my life in good faith as family. (This may sound flighty and I do take people at face value till proven wrong.)
I am daily overcoming the need to belong somewhere, to someone else’s family or be part of some social structure. 😊
© Lara Rose 2016